WholeLife Journey Notes -
This is one of the JourneyNotes and Meditations I send to select clients. Because I had requests to share it with others, I have posted it here.
How can you be fully centered in yourself.
Being deeply connected to another.
These two used to be mutually exclusive for me.
I could either be in my power
and feel VERY centered,
like I was "really taking care of me"
- OR -
Deeply connected to the person right in front of me.
And if I centered in myself, I felt like I was taking away something from the other person. Or if I focused on them for "too long" or "too much" then I started to feel... depleted.
With this Journey Note, I sat with what used to be the paradox of being deeply connected to myself WHILE ALSO being deeply connected to another.
Not only is it possible, but I discovered that it really is the ONLY way to do intimate relating that allows me to show up, honestly, authentically, and not get exhausted, overwhelmed, and resentful.
Now, is that easer said than done?
Here is what has supported me exploring both empowerment & compassion.
1. A Relationship with Myself
It has been vital to carve out valuable time to create the relationship I have with me. Valuable meaning, I don't give myself "scraps time" - but I actually make it an INTENTION to spend alone, quality time with myself.
I do not call anyone.
I do not "do" anything for anyone else.
This is time for me, to do what I want, at my own pace.
2. A Morning Practice
A meditation that supports my own cultivation of EMPOWERMENT - or centering in myself. You can use the link here to access the GIFT meditation on Empowerment and Compassion.
3. Clearing up my fears around intimacy.
This REALLY came through my 1x1 NLP sessions.
Not until I was able to clear up my past stories about "how close was safe" to another human being, was I able to actually FEEL compassion, rather than just act like I knew what compassion was. This has allowed me to comfortable SIT with someone who was going through a challenging experience, or even receive not so awesome feedback, while NOT BEING THROWN OFF of my center. Yea. Get hit with weird news and not let it shake my core. Invaluable.
Sitting with another. While also breathing into my power. Showing Compassion, while not FALLING into their experience. The meditation here will help you with this, big time.
So when you are ready, access this weeks Journey Notes Meditation here.
And let me know how this theme moves you.
As a humble student of this work, I am always looking for feedback.
So if this Journey Note is useful to you, let me know.
Briana Cavion, MA, MAnlp
Briana is a Communication and Relationship Coach Practitioner for WholeLife Neuro-Linguistic Programing (wholelifenlp.com). She has been described as having a shamanic way of helping her clients identify and release what has been slowing them down, sabotaging their path, and stopping them from living the life they most desire. She coaches to reignite personal freedom, soulful leadership and authentic communication. She works with the presupposition that life is an incredible opportunity to create the truest expression of your highest purpose, greatest impact and deepest gifts.