What's Your Ideal Scene?


Most people I coach have spent more time planning a festival weekend than designing their ideal life. If we want to see our desired outcomes manifest in life, in relationships, in business, or in any part of our creative endeavors, it is vital that we put some work into building our Ideal Scenes. 

Even in such uncertain times as recession or personal life chaos, those who build their business, relationships, and futures *by design*, succeed.

Lucky? Sure! - Luck favors prepared people with a strong vision!



A while ago I worked with a very talented painter. His goal was to get more private buyers for his expensive art pieces. I asked who was his ideal client. He said that he didn't care who the buyers were, as long as they could afford to buy his art.

I asked if he liked the idea of selling his paintings to some Mafioso interested only in the opportunity to launder money from selling drugs.

He didn't want that. He started to think and realized that he did care a lot who would be buying his art. He wanted to paint for *real* people, who would hang pictures in their living rooms and truly enjoy his creation. There WAS a specific type of buyer he wanted to attract and that helped him tremendously in marketing.

You too can just sell your services or products to *anyone* (that's the hard way) -- or design your life in such way that you attract people who will be grateful for what you do for them. You see, having those wonderful, loyal clients doesn't happen by accident. It is orchestrated.

Create your Ideal Scene
Begin with the end in mind. Write in the form of an essay, letter to a friend, or a multi-media art project (see blog on WholeLife VisionBoard)  from the future how would you like to live your life under ideal circumstances.

Define what it is that you really - really - want. Not only in business. In relationships. In your living situation. In health. In life.

Your Ideal Scene should be written in present tense. The more detail, the better it is. Be precise. If you can't write it down - you are not sure what you really want.

Not good. How can you set goals if you are not sure what you are after?

Time frames

Go through each of the series of questions for the following times. This is to REVERSE ENGINEER the process of creating your ideal scene into reality. Start a year from now, then break it down into smaller chunks. Allow your mind to explore, imagine and realistically create your ideal scene. 

Start 5 years from now. 

1 year from now. 

6 Months

1 month

The place
Picture yourself and your business (or relationship, health, living situation) in one, two, or even five years down the road. When everything works IDEALLY, where are you conducting business? Maybe you have many locations, in some busy malls. Or in your new dream home? On the beach? Describe it! Write it down. How does it look?

How does it FEEL?

Can you see the furniture, equipment, windows, walls, shelves, registers, entry area, flowers, pictures, computers, documents? Try to see it all. Keep writing and creating.

Who are your customers?
Now take a look at the people who are buying from you and working with you.

Who are they? How do they look? And what do they say about your business? What do they think about you? Are they happy? How do they express their gratitude for the opportunity to do business with you? What do they say about you to others? How do you feel about it? Good? Describe the SPECIFIC feeling. In what ways are your customers advocating your business? Saying... WHAT?

Remember - you are building your IDEAL scene, so dare to dream! In the IDEAL situation, how will your business affect lives of your customers?

Who is working for you?
Who are your employees? WHY do they work for you? How do they look? What are their plans and how will you help them to accomplish those plans? What do your employees say about you when you are not in the room? How does it make you feel?

Your personal life
What changes have your thriving business caused in the life of your family? In which way has the quality of your life improved?

So, you have more time...
What are you doing with that time?

You have more money?
What are you doing with all this money?

Do you travel more?
Where are you traveling to?

Have you bought a new home?
How does it look?
What do your friends say about you?

How do you feel. Happy?
What exactly makes you feel happy?

Don't forget your values
Write down what are the values you will not compromise in the process of getting there (wherever you came in your ideal scene). This will create a price limit you are willing and committing yourself to pay for your success.

Most people spend more time planning a vacation trip than designing their perfect life. No wonder that their life is not perfect. Don't be one of them! It is so much easier to accomplish what you want if you can see it in great detail!

Adapted from an article originally by Wanda Loskot


Briana Cavion, MA, MAnlp

Briana is a Communication and Relationship Coach for WholeLife Neuro-Linguistic Programing (wholelifenlp.com).  She has been described as having a "magical" way of helping her clients identify and release what has been slowing them down, sabotaging their path, and stopping them from living the life they most desire. She coaches to reignite personal freedom, flourishing relationships, soulful leadership, and authentic communication. She works with the presupposition that life is an incredible opportunity to create the truest expression of your highest purpose, greatest impact, and deepest gifts.