“The longer we hold onto resenting someone else, the more work we have to do on forgiving ourselves.”
- Student & Collaborating SoulCoach Avi Nimmer
Whether you feel like someone has wronged you, or you have stepped out of integrity in your life, the meditative and loving practice of Ho’oponopono can change your heart and mind in just a matter of moments.
There are four simple steps to this method, and the order is, in our experience, irrelevant.
Love, Repentance, Forgiveness, and Gratitude are the only forces at work –
AND these forces have amazing power.
PO-NO (poe, rhymes with toe)
Ho'oponopono can help anyone let go of resentment.
This Hawaiian word comes from ho'o ("to make") and pono ("right"). The repetition of the word pono means "doubly right" or being right with both self and others.
The practice is a way to become FULLY RESPONSE-ABLE for everything in your mind, be it a person, event, or something in the future. Yes, you are able to respond with love, grace, action, silence, power, force, or nothing… that is the practice. To develop CHOICE in your responses, and your life.
HOW TO Ho’oponopono-
Find a quiet space. Our preference is after morning movement, heading into silent meditation.
Imagine the being who you are feeling the resentment with.
See them surrounded by white, golden light.
From your heart, send love, and repeat the meditation. You can say these words out-loud, or from your heart to theirs.
I love you.
Please Forgive me.
Again, the order of the words is not important. What is important is that you slow down, connect, feel, and express. Go through the meditation AS MANY TIMES AS NECESSARY until you feel a gentle neutrality when you think about this person. Repeat this practice as many days as necessary.
5. Complete with a closing, a thank you to their soul, and a thank you to your own soul. Just a general THANK YOU out-loud if perfect.
Step 1: Love – I LOVE YOU
Say I LOVE YOU.
Out-loud. In your heart. In your head.
Say it to your body, say it to God.
Say I LOVE YOU to the air you breathe, to the house that shelters you.
Say I LOVE YOU to your challenges. Say I love your to your Money. Say I love you to your food.
Say it over and over.
Mean it. Feel it. There is NOTHING more powerful than LOVE.
Step 2: Repentance – I’M SORRY
As I mention above, you are responsible for everything in your mind, and your life, even if it seems to be “out there.” Once you realize that, it’s very natural to feel sorry. I know I sure do. If I hear of a tornado, I am so full of SORROW (hence the word “sorry”) that something in my consciousness has created that idea. I’m so very sorry that someone I know has a broken bone that I realize I have caused.
This realization can be painful, and you will likely resist accepting responsibility for the “out there” kind of problems until you start to practice this method on your more obvious “in here” problems and see results.
So choose something that you already know you’ve caused for yourself? Over-weight? Addicted to nicotine, alcohol or some other substance? Do you have anger issues? Health problems? Start there and say you’re sorry. That’s the whole step: I’M SORRY. Although I think it is more powerful if you say it more clearly: “I realize that I am responsible for the (issue) in my life and I feel terrible remorse that something in my consciousness has caused this.”
Step 3: Ask Forgiveness – PLEASE FORGIVE ME
Don’t worry about who you’re asking. Just ask! PLEASE FORGIVE ME. Say it over and over. Mean it. Remember your SORROW from Step 2 as you ask to be forgiven.
Step 4: Gratitude – THANK YOU
Say “THANK YOU” – again it doesn’t really matter who or what you’re thanking.
Thank your body for all it does for you.
Thank yourself for being the best you can be.
Thank God. Thank the Universe. Thank whatever it was that just forgave you.
Just keep saying THANK YOU.
And don’t ever stop!
That’s it. The whole practice in a nutshell. Simple and amazingly effective.
The key to Ho’oponopono is practice.
This is something that I have integrated into my morning ritual. Once I have completed my movement, I sit and I pray. Ho’oponono is what I send to myself, or anyone that I have difficult feelings towards, or I do not know what to offer them in times of trouble.
Ho’oponopono is how I learned how to love my body.
Ho’oponopono is how I reprogrammed my relationship with all of my former lovers, bad relationship endings, and poorly handled conversations (either by me, or them!)
May this work EMPOWER you to find the brave softness of your heart, and share it fully.
For deeper meditation on this practice, here is a music playlist for you to enjoy.